Gut feelings are one of those things that science can’t explain yet – no doubt it will get there someday, and there are plenty of theories – but we’ve all experienced that uneasy feeling in the pit of your stomach that something or someone is wrong. I try to listen to it, but far too often I or others drown out that apprehensive, slightly queasy feeling with logic and rationality. Very rarely have I found that proved right. Sure, you can’t just ignore someone in a social context because you have a “bad feeling”, but you can keep your distance and be a little guarded, rather than immediately opening up to them. If you’re in a situation where you’re potentially vulnerable, always listen to it.
Every time I don’t listen to my gut I always end up regretting it eventually. Whether it’s the girl I wasn’t sure about being friends with, who I allowed to win me over and then ruined years of my life, or the guy I had a bad feeling about but gave a second chance, only for him to dump me in the most brutal way he could – had I listened to my gut when I first met them I wouldn’t have lost years of my life to a narcissist and a selfish prick.
I’ll keep this post short and sweet, but I’ll say that recently I didn’t go with my gut feeling of what was the right thing to do and someone was hurt in the process. For once, it wasn’t me, and that makes me feel even worse. If there’s a little voice in your head telling you what’s the right thing to do, or you have a uneasy feeling deep down, please listen to it. Even if you listen and it turns out to be the wrong thing, at least you won’t regret not being true to yourself. Always trust your gut.